Excluding selected facets in Instantsearch refinementlist

Hi - is there a way to configure the Instantsearch.js refinementlist widget to exclude selected items instead of the default include?

I saw there’s a way to configure the search to exclude by facets, but how do we connect it to the refinementlist in order to let users select it? Any suggestions or code sample would be really helpful!

    facetsExcludes: { ... },